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A A. Daily Reflection May 23 One Day At A Time World

While an addict’s spiritual malady triggers a compulsive need to use drugs, other people’s spiritual conflicts may take the form of a gambling problem, anxiety, depression, or eating disorder. There are many persons in recovery who are not interested in discussing or even hearing about spirituality. As overwhelming as I’m sure this all may seem for someone who’s either never had a spiritual connection, or been disconnected for years, I’d like to assure you it’s not as formidable as it may seem. But first, it’s crucial that you understand the difference between a spiritual experience and a religious one.

Throughout history, countless individuals have embarked on the journey of overcoming the spiritual malady and have emerged with renewed purpose, inner peace, and a deep sense of spiritual connection. Their stories serve as sources of inspiration and guidance for others walking a similar path. Another significant factor that contributes to spiritual malady is the lack of connection with nature and the natural world. In today’s fast-paced, technology-driven society, many individuals have become disconnected from the earth, the elements, and the rhythms of nature. This disconnection can result in a loss of grounding, a sense of emptiness, and a longing for something deeper and more meaningful. Uncovering the root causes may involve therapy, counseling, or other therapeutic approaches that facilitate healing and self-discovery.

The Missing Piece: The Spiritual Malady

What is important though is that we strive to be a little better every single day and never give up on our spiritual journey in recovery. Our spiritual malady never just goes away and stays away on its own, it requires a constant spiritual connectivity and effort on our parts in our programs to keep it and the subsequent alcohol and drug abuse at bay. So long as we make an active effort to address our spiritual malady every day, we will find relief from it, one day at a time. One common root cause of spiritual malady is societal conditioning. From a young age, individuals are often influenced by societal norms, expectations, and cultural beliefs that may not align with their true spiritual nature.

  • It’s really not my mind – the mental obsession – that is the underlying root of what will take me back to  drinking.
  • His story highlights the transformative power of surrendering to a higher power and finding strength and guidance in a supportive community.
  • It’s the “spiritual malady”, as manifested by my EGO (selfishness-self-centeredness), that can eventually lead me back to drinking or sometimes even suicide.
  • My troubles are of my own making and arise out my living a life run on self-will.
  • By understanding the root causes, individuals can begin to dismantle the barriers preventing them from experiencing spiritual wholeness and aligning with their true selves.

Our bodies are the place from which we, as humans, do life. So mistreating our bodies is sort of like setting our own house on fire. Except unlike burning our house down, we can’t go find a new body to live Thoughts of Recovery No 17 The Spiritual Malady Step 1 in if we destroy the one God gave us. Am I regularly seeking out the truth in God’s Word? Spending time with God and reading His word is a big part of keeping our minds healthy and grounded in truth.

How to Understand How an Addict May Suffer Spiritually

The great psychiatrist Carl Jung called this a ‘low level thirst for wholeness – for union with God’. In our addictions, we tried to quench our soul-thirst with fleeting pleasures. The pursuit of them dominated our lives, destroyed relationships, and caused greater desperation than we ever thought possible. We became selfish and self-seeking, ever thirsting for more, and this lust warped us on every level. But we were never satisfied, because but the living presence of God can quench our parched souls. So let’s take a look at the questions we can ask ourselves to help us build our spiritual inventory list.

They can record stories, write down their questions and muse about possible answers. It gives them an outlet to work through their thoughts and emotions. The reader likely won’t be motivated to live in the solution the book offers unless they can first find their specific story in the problem.

The Big Book’s Answer to Relapse Prevention

In addition, the spiritual malady can also have a profound impact on an individual’s relationships. When one is disconnected from their spiritual essence, they may struggle to form deep and meaningful connections with others. This can lead to difficulties in maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships, as well as a sense of alienation from those around them. Furthermore, the spiritual malady can contribute to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and a lack of belonging. Without a sense of connection to something greater than oneself, individuals may struggle to find solace and support during challenging times.

  • Same thing with alcohol; some people can have a couple beers, no problem.
  • History, we can finally learn how to get cured of alcoholism.
  • They also experience an ineffable quality from becoming spiritual – one  where their feelings go beyond mere words.
  • Individuals experiencing this malady may feel disconnected from their own emotions, desires, and values.

This isn’t about a legalistic set of religious rules we are required to follow. I want to make clear to members that these thoughts are not definitive treatise on the subjects. Just an attempt to stimulate thought or discussion and provide information based on my study and experience.

If he did not work, he would surely  drink again, and if he drank, he would surely die. With us it is just  like that.” Thankfully, the “spiritual malady” is no longer a “missing piece” of Step One for me. It is a  reality of my powerlessness and unmanageability and enables me to see why I so desperately need to  seek a Power Greater than myself. And unless this malady is recognized, and a course of action (the  Twelve Steps) is taken to enable God to remove it, the root of our alcoholic illness can lie dormant and  burn us when we least expect it. To conclude, it’s not my body — my allergic reaction to alcohol — that’s going to take me back to drinking.

But alcoholics have an “allergy” to alcohol, so for them, a couple beers turns into a world of hurt. Same thing with food—especially this time of year. Some people can have one Christmas cookie and they’re good. But for food addicts—because of their body’s “allergy” to sugar or processed foods—one Christmas cookie leads to a dozen. Those of you who have been in Celebrate Recovery (CR) for a while know that our 12-steps are exactly modeled on the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. This is a proven process has helped literally millions of people all over the world recover from addictions and compulsive behaviors.

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To support persons in recovery by improving their access to safe, stable residences with peer and community support. Our vision is adequate housing for all individuals in recovery from a substance use disorder. Global events like elections, terrorist attacks, and natural disasters
People in recovery tend to take everything personally. We sometimes use big events that may have no direct impact on our lives as reasons to drink or use. After the last presidential election, I heard many people in meetings bitterly joke that they were either moving to Canada or having a drink.

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Many people in recovery take professional setbacks personally, punishing themselves for a perceived failure. We will drink or use to escape the pain of a perceived failure, or—in a masochistic fashion—to inflict more damage on themselves as the vicious punishment for such a failure. When you consider the consequences, this outcome can be devastating.


Luckily, most of them did neither, regaining their focus on the microcosm of their own lives. They focused on what was right in front of them, remembering to take things one day at a time. Given these statistics, it’s easy to apply the second and third steps to a career setback. If you turn over the disappointment to a higher power and have faith that another opportunity will arise, then relapse is less likely to occur.

Our homes are smoke free but there are plenty of designated outdoor smoking areas. When seemingly apocalyptic moments arise, there is an urge to console ourselves. We feel the pain and horror of terrorist attacks and natural disasters and use those feelings as a justification for a relapse. Paul needed a structured and supportive social life, he needed to be with others in recovery. To refer an ATR participant for sober home assistance and placement, authorized portals should complete this referral form and upload any required documentation. Our referral form is password protected, and only Authorized Referral Portals have access to make a referral.

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If you discuss the problem in a group, you will receive support and learn from the similar experiences of other people. Here are four life setbacks which can lead to relapse if we do not have recovery tools. Rockland Recovery Homes is certified by New York State as a not-for-profit organization with 501(C)3 status. We will open recovery homes in Rockland County to provide a safe, relaxing, enjoyable place to live, for people working at recovery from a SUD. A place they will be proud to call their home, enjoy taking care of and being responsible for. When someone in early recovery focuses with such fervor on a partner, they no longer can keep the focus on themselves.

Whether we are newly clean and sober or have stacked up many years—even decades—of sobriety, the triggers that lead to a relapse happen before we pick up the first drink or drug. But if we have done the work and have recovery tools in place, these triggering events can be processed successfully instead of leading to a relapse. We acquire recovery tools through 12-step programs, SMART Recovery, therapy, or whichever recovery pathway we have chosen, and we use them for relapse prevention.

Our Homes

Search our directory to find a list of all MASH-certified sober homes. All MASH-certified sober homes follow the National Alliance for Recovery Residences (NARR) standards and have been independently inspected. Cindy and her incomparable team aid individuals in remaining free from the shackles of active drug and alcohol addiction, as well as other co-occurring self-harming actions and disorders. The loss of a job, a promotion, or a major work opportunity
One of my favorite sayings in 12-step programs is that an expectation is a resentment under construction. When you miss out on a significant work opportunity or you’re let go from your job or passed over for a promotion, it is natural to feel crushed and overwhelmed.

After a referral is received, our Housing Coordinator will reach out to the individual to schedule an intake appointment. The cost of repeat treatment, prison time, ER visits is far greater than the cost of a recovery home. Amenities include on site laundry, air conditioning, parking, full kitchens, living/dining rooms and quick access to public transportation.

Without recovery tools or a relapse prevention plan, it can be difficult to stay sober while dealing with a significant life setback. The lure of the drink or drug to ease the pain and bring comfort becomes too great to resist. Photo by Jeremy Perkins on Unsplash
When people at treatment centers or in 12-step meetings say that relapse is part of recovery, it turns my stomach. Although the door to recovery remains open after a relapse—as long as a person survives such dangerous waters—relapse is not part of recovery. At the same time, however, the slip and slide process that leads to a relapse does happen in recovery.

The death of a family member or a close friend, and the pain of mourning
Death can be one of the hardest challenges to face for anyone in any context. The loss of a family member, a loved one, or a close friend can be incredibly painful, both spiritually and emotionally. For someone in recovery, the situations in which we grieve present their own unique difficulties. It can be easy for someone without recovery tools to pick up a drink during this time. Recovery homes have proven to have a success rate of 80%—that is a great success rate for recovery from a substance use disorder. Each guest can expect a clean bed, sufficient clothing storage, HDTV w/ cable and free wifi in every room inside a clean, well maintained home cared for by the guests who stay there!

By going out and spending time within a supportive community, the disaster loses some of its power over us. We come to understand that it’s not only our tragedy and can share our pain with others. We do not minimize the horror or sadness of what happened, but we also do not use it as a reason to relapse. Are you a state agency, licensed provider, individual, or family looking for a MASH-certified sober home?

  • Cindy and her incomparable team aid individuals in remaining free from the shackles of active drug and alcohol addiction, as well as other co-occurring self-harming actions and disorders.
  • A sense of hope and empowerment is critical to staying in recovery.
  • Each guest can expect a clean bed, sufficient clothing storage, HDTV w/ cable and free wifi in every room inside a clean, well maintained home cared for by the guests who stay there!
  • If you feel like you were not able to make amends for a past wrong, then make a living amends by staying sober and honoring their memory.
  • Many people in recovery take professional setbacks personally, punishing themselves for a perceived failure.

ATR addresses another critical recovery support for  ATR participants – HOUSING. Sober home services provide  wrap-around support to ATR participants experiencing housing instability by addressing both their housing and recovery needs. Referred by a community provider, an eligible ATR participant will work with an ATR Housing Coordinator to find a sober home that meets their needs. ATR will pay the sober home rent and will assign a peer recovery coach to work alongside the participant for the duration of their stay in the sober home.